Alpha Wives — super successful women — now have an able counterpart in Enlightened Husbands: Men who aren’t afraid of letting their wives take the lead when it comes to contributing to the family’s finances
As the “Alpha Wife” — the well-educated professional woman whose earning capacity equals or exceeds that of her husband — becomes commonplace, the Enlightened Husband too is coming into his own.
The Enlightened Husband has made peace with the fact that in an expensive world, being the primary breadwinner of the family isn’t such a good thing — but having a wife who can carry her share of the burden, is.
Riteish Deshmukh expressed the sentiment of the Enlightened Hubby when he said in a recent interview, that he would never want his wife Genelia to stop working in movies — because he wouldn’t want to sustain the home fires on his own!
Riteish’s remarks may have been in jest, but it does highlight that some men are comfortable with the idea of letting their wives take the driver’s seat when it comes to the family budget.
And the Alpha Wives who’re lucky enough to have Enlightened Hubbies are grateful for the support.
“Today, it’s perfectly okay for a woman to earn more than her husband,” says designer Shaina NC. “It’s important that the husband be supportive, take it in his stride and compliment her for sharing the financial burden. In my case, I owe my success more to my husband than my parents: He gave me the support I needed.”
Acceptance has come as men look at the situation in practical terms instead of egoistical ones.
Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty says that there is acceptance of the shift in power equations, and couples are leading a more balanced life as a result.
“Men are viewing it in practical terms, so they’ve become more receptive of their wives’ growth,” Dr Shetty adds.
Perhaps men have also discovered that when a wife’s busy at work, she doesn’t have as much time to nag! “A man came to me, asking how he could convince his wife to take up a job,” says relationship expert Seema Hingorrany.
“She would watch TV all day and pick fights with his mother. He wanted her to work so that the nagging would stop!”
Seema adds that women’s assertiveness about wanting to work, making this a precondition for marriage, has helped men to come to terms with it as well.
Popular television actor Manav Gohil, whose wife Shweta Kawatra has enjoyed an equal amount of fame on the small screen, says at least in the metros, men have evolved.
They understand that when their wives have something they’re successful at, it keep their identity intact. “Or she’ll just be someone’s wife,” says Manav. And no truly Enlightened Hubby would want that!
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